Wandering off the beaten path is ok. I need to constantly remind myself of that.
Just because people make different life choices than I would make doesn't make those decisions wrong. I need to remember that. I need to keep in mind that I have always done pretty much everything by the book - graduated high school, went immediately to college, graduated in 4 years (and a summer...cough), met SK, dated SK, moved in with SK, and then married SK. All done in the order they are traditionally done in. Minus the moving in before marriage.
DON'T JUDGE A JUDGER!
So, yeah...I'm judgy.
I try not to be, but I am. I form immediate opinions about people based on their clothes, or their hair, or their shoes. I am usually wrong about these initial judgments, but I can't help making them. I am trying to stop.
Other people do that too, right?
I'm not perfect. Far from it. I need to work harder at really BEING THERE when people call on me for love and support. I am not the most emotional person in the world, which has served me well thus far, but I need to work on being more emotionally present when someone I love needs comfort.
I also tend to dole out unsolicited advice. Frequently.
I need to keep in mind that just because someone calls with an issue or a problem, they might just want an ear to bend. I need to be better at keeping my opinions to myself until asked for them. And even then, I need to offer them up knowing that sometimes people don't REALLY want to hear what I think - they want to hear something to make them feel better about the situation they're worried about.
I'm pretty blunt. SK sometimes calls me "Debbie Downer" from the SNL skit because I call it like I see it and that isn't always from the view of rose-tinted glasses. Friends have come to me many times knowing I will tell them the truth about what I see or feel, but that's not always what needs to be said.
This is not to say that I don't support the choices that my loved ones might make. I may not understand them at first, I may not be sobbing and crying with you when you are making a life-changing decision, but trust that I will come out, fists a'fire if you need me to take anyone out who might stand in your way.
I am trying. I am working on it. I am a constant work in progress.